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In a recent study undertaken by Jennifer Crocker and Yu Niiya from the University of Michigan and Dominik Mischkowski from the University of Konstanz it has been shown that thinking about what you value can help you in life.

It has long been believed that reflecting on your values raises your self esteem and so makes you less defensive when you have to address your problems. However this study has shown that reflecting on values makes you more focussed on others which makes them more loving and connected to others.

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We continue our series on building self confidence and self esteem with a look back at our past. Your past is always important in that it provides a filter through which you view the present. So if you failed in some task in the past it will threaten your confidence in the present and similarly if you succeeded at something in the past it will help build confidence for the present.

The problem is that normal people tend to remember past failure rather than past success. Here we explore how to turn that around.

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One of the most destructive things for our self confidence and self esteem is the way we talk to ourselves. We all talk to ourselves constantly although we are usually not too aware of what we are saying. When you call yourself a ’stupid idiot’ because you forgot your lunch you are knocing your self confidence.

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